No one will ever realize that they’re doing something bad or wrong to themselves unless someone else tells them that they are. Here are 10 things to stop doing to yourself.
- Stop beating yourself up!
Again and again, we overlook that we are accountable for our presence. So what if you made a mistake? So what if you screwed up? Unfortunately, the world we live in has this rule that says “You only learn from your mistakes.” and that’s what I like to call mistakes; lessons learned. Stop beating yourself up for something stupid you did 6 years ago in elementary school, or yesterday at lunch.
- Stop trying to be someone you’re not!
We often tend to interpret our favorite people without noticing. Even if these people are celebrities or friends or teachers. There is no best! There is no prettiest, funniest, smartest, or nicest. It’s all an illusion. There will always be someone prettier than you are, and smarter than you are. All you have to do is accept that, because you’re perfect just the way you are; even with your imperfections.
- Stop living in the past!
Where are we now? We’re here. We’re in the present. Don’t let the ghosts of your past haunt you everywhere you go and affect everything you do. You are not what you did 2 years ago, and you are not yesterday. Stop criticizing yourself for mistakes you’ve done in the past.
- Stop pretending!
Stop acting like everything’s fine when you know very well that nothing’s fine. Don’t be afraid to express your feelings. Don’t be afraid of judgment or rejection. Stop letting people take advantage of you or your feelings. Stop putting a smile on your face when you feel like breaking down. Nothing is more important than you so cut yourself some slack. If you want to cry, cry. If you want to smile, smile.
- Stop giving up!
Fate blesses people who drive forward, so stop giving up and move forward! It’s okay to go for an interview and not do well. It’s okay to lose a match. It’s okay to argue with your best friend. But the trick is, don’t give up! Work harder for the next interview. Use other tricks when playing the next match. Tell your best friend you love him/her. It’s okay to fall down, but it’s not okay to stay on the ground.
Rolling out improvements is a genuine pain in the back. It requires significant investment and exertion. We require a justifiable reason motivation to move our propensities or to change our reasoning. Why would it be a good idea for us to go to that inconvenience? You deserve it, and you deserve to be happy. So stop beating yourself up, stop living in the past, and strive to improve.