A couple of months ago, I applied for a teaching job. I went through with the interview, got accepted to go for training. After training, there was evaluation to find out whether or not I’ll be working as a teacher with the company. So during the last days of training, I was really stressed and scared because the company was big and the salary was even bigger so it was huge for me. I had an argument with the HR, and it did not end well. It resulted in me losing the job.
When I found out that I didn’t get the job, I cried my eyes out, but it got me thinking. It got me thinking of a lot of things to change and a lot of things to do.
One of those things is how to accept conflict at work, and not give in to any negative comments or energy.
Nothing can bring down a happy worker, because a happy worker is a productive worker. Telling yourself there is no happy worker is something I expect, and no, don’t tell yourself that. Better yet, tell yourself that there is a happy worker and that happy worker is you.
Anything can happen at work, but nothing can affect you without you letting it affect you.
One of the things I learned from personal experience is starting your day on a good note will most definitely result in you having a good day. Also, if anything negative happens during your day, starting your day on a good note will still result in you having somewhat of a good day even with the negatives.
If you feel like there’s something wrong at work, sit down with yourself and think of 3 things:
- What you need to stop doing
- What you need to start doing
- What you need to continue doing
If there’s someone bothering you at work, or you feel as though they are trying to intimidate you or annoy you, all you have to do is ignore them. Better yet, show them you care, when in fact, you don’t. There’s nothing wrong with disagreement at work, but there’s a lot wrong with letting that disagreement get to you. Navigating the disagreement/conflict successfully is very important also because it makes you think of things rationally and professionally. Be tough on issues, not people. We always make the mistake of judging someone based on their actions rather than judge their actions alone. People are not what they do; they are what they are.
Last but not least, if you ever feel like you are about to lose it, just step back, count to 5, take deep breaths, and think things through.
So like I said, don’t let conflict affect you or even worse, consume you. Control your emotions, control yourself, accept conflict at work, and be a happy worker.
Just like Bobby McFerrin said “Don’t worry, be happy.”